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fullygoldy) wrote2006-02-04 12:10 pm
fullygoldy) wrote2006-02-04 12:10 pm
A New Family Policy
After last weekend's drama, I announced a new family policy. And the family seems to have accepted it gladly. I decided that everytime someone comes home, they get hugged by everyone in the house.
So Monday, I asked for my hug from DH and got it. Rupert wasn't around at the time, so I let it slide. Mavis wasn't home til much later, and when I went to give her the hug, she was all "what's going on?"
"New policy. Everyone gets hugged when they come home."
"Why?"
"Because sometimes you just need a hug when you come home, and you shouldn't have to ask for it."
"I totally agree with this policy."
All week, we reminded each other to give/get the hugs. Rupert won't ask for his, but when I offer one or ask for one, he wraps his newly-lanky adolescent arms around me, and he doesn't let go. Honest. He hugs longer than anyone else in the house. I figure he needs the hugs more than I ever suspected. And I'm glad he's getting them. I just need to remember for him until he's comfortable enough to do the reminding. Or until it's just a habit. Whatever it takes.
Mavis asks for hers before she even gets her coat off. They're nice and warm, and I'm glad she's on board with this. DH and I are just about equal in asking for or offering to each other, and it's a new dimension to our greeting ritual. We've always kissed goodbye and hello, but now we have full body contact on the hello. It's a good thing.
So Monday, I asked for my hug from DH and got it. Rupert wasn't around at the time, so I let it slide. Mavis wasn't home til much later, and when I went to give her the hug, she was all "what's going on?"
"New policy. Everyone gets hugged when they come home."
"Why?"
"Because sometimes you just need a hug when you come home, and you shouldn't have to ask for it."
"I totally agree with this policy."
All week, we reminded each other to give/get the hugs. Rupert won't ask for his, but when I offer one or ask for one, he wraps his newly-lanky adolescent arms around me, and he doesn't let go. Honest. He hugs longer than anyone else in the house. I figure he needs the hugs more than I ever suspected. And I'm glad he's getting them. I just need to remember for him until he's comfortable enough to do the reminding. Or until it's just a habit. Whatever it takes.
Mavis asks for hers before she even gets her coat off. They're nice and warm, and I'm glad she's on board with this. DH and I are just about equal in asking for or offering to each other, and it's a new dimension to our greeting ritual. We've always kissed goodbye and hello, but now we have full body contact on the hello. It's a good thing.