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fullygoldy: Woman reclining under text block (Queen of Fucking Everything)
This year, I was more specific with my contributions.  In addition to the regulars:  Habitat for Humanity, Planned Parenthood and the Wheelchair Recycling folks, I added Wisconsin Women's Health Foundation, Second Harvest Foodbank, and was delighted to find Be the Match (the bone marrow registry).  I don't know how I missed them before - maybe they're new, or maybe I hadn't looked in awhile because I haven't specified more than 3 organizations before.

I also love that my employer matches my contribution.  It makes it possible for me to direct more money to the campaigns I care about most, and to spread it around a bit further.  I couldn't contribute meaningfully to 6 orgs on my own.

The breakdown:  Food, Shelter, Mobility, Women's Health & Reproductive Rights, and something personal - Bone Marrow Donors.  All of these are near and dear to me, and I've directly benefitted from a couple of them.  50% Healthcare, 30% Home/shelter, 20% Mobility.  I'm breaking out Mobility for the first time because it's not totally healthcare, and it's not totally home, but it's also critical to a happy, healthy lifestyle.

It's a painless way to contribute and it feels good to do so.  And almost every organization I've named in the past has send a thank you card or newsletter at some point in the following year.  It's a nice reminder on a rainy day that I took 10 minutes to do a good thing.

Can It Be 2014 Now?

Saturday, August 3rd, 2013 03:54 pm
fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Default)
The good news:
The girl is pregnant and due January 31, 2014. She hasn't had too many icky symptoms, and the first ultrasound (they do them at 10 wks now!) looked good. She and the baby-daddy have committed to parenting together, but they so far haven't decided they *must* marry, so I have hope that their eyes are as open as they claim. DH says we'll shorten "Grandma Goldy" to GG. :)

The bad news:
DH had a systoscopy on Thursday. They scoped his bladder, and the way they get in there isn't fun. There's a growth on the bladder wall which will be removed surgically on the 20th. He's scheduled to be admitted for 24 hrs "given his history." These "cancerous" growths come in two flavors, we're told. It could be sitting on top of the bladder wall, and the removal/biopsy process will completely eradicate it, OR it could be embedded and require further treatment. I spent the first 4 mos of this year helping him recover from cancer #2. I am SO not looking forward to spending the last four doing the same thing.

So, I've got a list of potential therapists for me, since I seriously need someone to rant to (and did so before this lovely discovery), and I'm staying flexible for our Labor Day camping trip (remote camping, paddle the canoe across the lake to get there stuff), because either he won't be up for it, or he will, but he won't be able to do any lifting or paddling. I'm cancelling our plans to go to Paso Robles in Oct. Even if the body is willing, the checkbook won't be. The next two weekends have fun stuff planned, so I'm going to try to focus on that and not start worrying about the surgery until the 19th. This weekend I'm reading an embarrassing amount of Teen Wolf fic. Go me.

Good News

Saturday, December 29th, 2012 08:13 am
fullygoldy: Michelle Obama flexing biceps (Flotus is Awesome)
Yesterday we were informed the results of the PET scan show DH's latest scare is totally confined to his left tonsil.  He'd already been scheduled for it's removal on Jan. 18, so they're probably going to keep that date unless they can get him in earlier.  While they're removing it, they'll decide whether or not he needs any radiation to finish it off.  But it's supposedly pretty easy to eradicate when it's this type of cancer, and this specifically located.  It was a huge relief to get this news.  I'm almost as shell-shocked as I was two weeks ago when they told us it was there.  DH is hugely relieved because he was afraid his vocal chords would be involved, and that did not bode well for his "newgrass"/bluegrass musical hobby.

I need to schedule a Dr appointment to be checked out though, because this is related to HPV.  So technically, it's a cancer that's also an STD.  sheesh.

ION, we bought a new car on Thursday.  It's a Kia Forte (5-door) with a moon roof.  It's only the 2nd car I've ever purchased brand new, and I've never had one with a moon roof before either.  She's "super-cute" according to the girl, and promises to get really good gas mileage, probably twice as many mpgs as either of our 2 decrepit vehicles which both need serious repairs before the kids can comfortably take them over for their daily commutes.  With 4 drivers in the house, and the looming medical gauntlet, we felt we needed more than 2 vehicles.  At some point we'll get back on track to trade one of these in for another Subaru, but now it looks like 2-3 yrs instead of less than 2.  It's been a long time since we've had a car payment, so this will be interesting.  At least the maintenance is included for the first 50K miles.
fullygoldy: Animated snow shower over snowman (Snowman)

Woke up to a pretty dusting of snow on the ground.  About half an hour later, the power went out.  So I called in the report to the power company, and DH made a fire in the fireplace.  At that point, the snow started coming down in earnest, so we were snuggled in our living room with a cosy fire and a pretty view.  Good thing we'd already made the coffee and tea.

After a bit, I decided to straighten up since everything is still in disarray from the xmas decorating, which isn't quite done, and couldn't really be finished in the semi-dark.  Then DH made pancakes and bacon.  Just as we sat down to eat, the power was restored (maybe 90 min without? not bad at all).  So he put one of our favorite CDs on (Windham Hill's Solstice I).  I have to say, it doesn't really get much better than this.

On Windham Hill:  We've accumulated quite a lot of their works over the years.  Almost everything is acoustical, and a good bit of it is 'winter-appropriate.'  When DH and I first met, we discovered we had the same favorite album - December by George Winston, produced by Windham Hill.  That was the thing that really sealed the deal for us.  We had felt so connected so quickly, it was kind of scary.  Then he said, "I want you to hear this, it's my favorite."  When I recognized the album cover (he was opening a cassette box) from across the room, I realized we were gonna be stuck together for a long time.  The album was too obscure for the coincidence to be merely random, you know? Well. I knew.  And 26 yrs later, a perfect winter morning.
 
I'm going to finish my decorating, gift wrapping (wedding present, not xmas yet!) and laundry while continuing to listen to my favorite sounds of the season.

United Way Time

Thursday, October 11th, 2012 09:39 am
fullygoldy: CKR Smile More (Smile)
It's that time of year again around the office.  I just completed my United Way pledge for 2013.

They had a question this time about how many years you've been a contributor, and I realized that nearly every company I've worked for has provided payroll deduction for United Way contributions.  Which means I'm firmly in the 10-24 year "loyal contributor" category.  Seriously, this is the easiest thing in the world to do.  On top of this though, I'm working out a formal plan for a monthly "tithe" if you will, to other groups/efforts that aren't associated with United Way.  Up til now, that's been kind of slap-dash, but I've got a few regulars, so I figure I can make it a habit, and that will be easy too.  Plus, it has the benefit of being able to sincerely say to telemarketers, "I'm sorry, my charity budget for the year is fully committed."  It sounds so much better (to me) than "No."

The other thing I realized though, was that I have a very well defined method to my giving, even though I may feel like it's slap-dash.

60 % Directed Contributions:
20% each to Planned Parenthood, Habitat for Humanity and the local Wheelchair Recycling program.
40% "Best Use" Contributions:
20% each to organizations that ensure "People's Health Issues are Identified and Treated Early" and to organizations that work to "Reduce Family Homelessness." 

So, 40% of my workplace contribution goes toward home/shelter, and 60% to healthcare

The kicker is my employer matches my contribution 100% in the county I live in.  I'm sure they just dump it in the general fund and United Way gets to decide where to spend it, but that's why I alway choose my beneficiaries.  I'm open to suggestions for future additions - I've managed to up my contribution every year, so next year I'll probably be able to add/redistribute again (I hate reducing any particular amount, but I can redistribute the Best Use into the Directed category easily).

The rest of the year, my not-yet-formalized-system has me giving to AAMDS (research in bone marrow failure diseases), OTW, my and DH's former universities, local food banks, various public radio stations, and the ever-present Goodwill/St Vinny's (either as a donator or a purchaser).  Some of these are also matched by my employer, if I remember to get the form and send it in.  This is why I need to formalize my system - why send $25-50 when it can just as easily be $50-100, right?

Of the non-workplace contributions, they usually go to organizations from which I or my family have personally benefitted, and they usually have to do with health and shelter.  Food = love is a big player in my personal philosophy so no surprise that's a favorite spot to donate. An overlapping chunk is what I think of as my "subversive" contribution to society - public radio and OTW, and Planned Parenthood.  When I didn't have the option of workplace contributions, I always contributed directly to Planned Parenthood and Habitat.  In fact, I've probably contributed the most to PP over the years, because no matter how strapped I am, that shit's important (and this slut votes with her money as well as at the polls).

Anyway, I'm always happy to fill out my annual pledge form.  I've probably multiplied my contribution by 10 in the 30-ish years I've participated.  My first job in SF, CA was my intro, and I could only handle a couple bucks a pay period in '85.  It all adds up over time though, and matching grants are the bomb.

AH, Tuesday!

Tuesday, March 13th, 2012 06:38 pm
fullygoldy: Woman reclining under text block (Queen of Fucking Everything)
I am home, after a 200 mile round trip and 3 meetings, ensconsed on the sofa in my empty house with renovation shows on TV, my laptop in my lap (and Grimm slash by [personal profile] hoosierbitch  in the queue), and a margarita at my elbow.  The sun is still up, tomorrow will be warmer than today.  Life is GOOOOOOD.

(Tuesday is DH's night out of the house, and has quickly become my refuge)

I Am Home Alone!

Tuesday, February 7th, 2012 07:24 pm
fullygoldy: Woman reclining under text block (Queen of Fucking Everything)
Seriously, I am alone in the house and I can't remember the last time this was true.
Normally I would turn off the TV and bask in the silence, but thanks to those on my reading list who have been writing and reccing Avengers themed stuff, I am watching the second half of Iron Man.
I should be doing something for work that is due in the morning, but I am going to go to bed early and get up early instead.
Also, I just finished buffing my nails.
I have half a beer and a snifter of amaretto.
I have a remote with a mute button for the commercials, so I'm getting intermittent silence (except for doggie noises).
I have my laptop and comfy jammies.
It is, it is a glorious thing.

Happy New Year

Monday, January 2nd, 2012 01:39 pm
fullygoldy: Goldy's Sparkles N Porn Nametag (Hello)


So I've been musing over what to do about LJ and the great fannish migration to DW, coupled with the great social migration to FB. I'm not a technophobe or luddite, even though tech doesn't always like me back, but I just don't see FB being a decent journaling tool. The timeline and archive will make things a bit easier to find, but no real tagging system, and the clunkiness, and having to put up with the advertising and weekly format changes just all add up to a not-very-user-friendly experience.

I really don't want to have my non-fannish people stumbling into my fannish posts, and I really don't want to filter because I've found that I have collected up a few subscribers over time due to some points of commonality, and I think that's really cool. If I filtered all my "fun" stuff, it would be much harder to make these interesting semi-random connections. And I feel awkward asking strangers for access when I might only want to read one thing, or visit one link. I know some people filter just about everything and then grant access when asked, but how do you know if the stranger who is asking is going to be welcome?

Anyway, it's a new year, so I'm going to try a new thing. I haven't been journaling much in the past two years anyway, so I guess I can resolve to do a little better on that topic. I'm going to keep posting the entirely generic stuff at LJ and link to those posts (not crosspost), but add more personal stuff here. Mainly because I do enjoy hearing the personal things my fannish friends have to say, I appreciate the glimpses into your daily lives and I think I should reciprocate.

I don't typically do hard and fast resolutions - and mostly I commit to things that are more about self improvement than self-flagellation. ie, try one bite of everything offered (which led to a whole new level of foodieness). The past few years' goals have a similar vibe though - a desire for more connection with more people. I think I've done well in the more people department (people from all over, not just one group or age range), but not so well in the deeper connections. Although I have to say that I've got a couple of bright spots on that horizon. A couple of grown up women and a man, all completely outside of work, and all my age or a bit older. That age bit is the strangest because I'm forever making friends way outside of my age range. As a kid, all my friends were adults until I was a teen, and the last few years I've been taking a page from DH and collecting much younger friends (it's a fannish thing mostly). But anyway, I've also become closer with some extended family, so maybe I should be putting that particular goal in the win column after all. However, relationships take work and constant vigilance, so it's not like I will ever say "I'm done!"

I'm also going to try to do something active everyday. I have an actual selection of activities available now: Wii, dancing, yoga, walking (with and without dogs or companions), and in the summer I want to add back canoeing (it's been TWO years since I've been on the water!). Last year I had spurts of activity and stretches of not, but I did add something entirely new (East Coast Swing), and I'm looking forward to taking a couple more dance classes. I might manage an actual yoga class as well.  [community profile] sun_salutation  is a lovely community and has helped keep yoga in my awareness, and encouraged me to keep at it, but I need to stretch myself (no pun intended). Plus it would be nice to have something to share with the community myself.

For work, I want to get better at finishing things, closing projects, knowing I'm DONE with something so I can really move on.

Financially I need to get my house in order. I've been poking at this for a couple of years, and done some good things, but also have let some bad habits creep in. I'm going to take care of that. I have no excuses for what I've let happen. I am really blessed with good fortune, a good job, and the ability to do better than just pay my bills. So I should be acting a little more adult about that--I should show my appreciation for my blessings by being a bit more responsible and careful with them.  My milestone tattoo was to be a reminder of a particular achievement, but I'm also going to use it as a reminder of this insight. Oooh! I've never posted a pic here. I'll have to fix that.

 

The rest of today is going to be divided between more chores (I split the kitchen with DH, and have half the laundry underway), checkbook and bills, football (go Cocks! go Badgers!).

I also need to get iTunes onto my personal computer, transfer a bunch of the girl's music to her computer, transfer a bunch of pics from her computer, work out her tuition reimbursement for the first semester, and rework my bill payment schedule to align better with my income receipt schedule.  All that may not happen today, but it's got to happen before Jan 15.  That's when the girl goes back to school.

Pay It Forward!

Sunday, December 25th, 2011 10:55 pm
fullygoldy: Dan Rydell in shorts behind the desk (Danny Boxer Briefs)

I haven't checked my personal (or work) email in 3 days.  Tonight I found this message from DW:

<quote>Dear fullygoldy,

Your account has been randomly selected to receive xdawnfirex's payment
through our sponsor-a-free-user program.

The account type that was purchased is:

Paid Account for 12 months

Congratulations on your paid time! </quote>

WOWOW!!  I was just thinking I should get off my but and renew my subscription tomorrow.  So I will - by making a similar donation :)

Thanks, [personal profile] rainne  !!  I'm going to enjoy my free year!
fullygoldy: Natalie Reads Slash to Dana (Privileged)

It's just that after being on the computer all day for work, and dealing with family and house, and reading & commenting on my amazing flist at LJ and my amazing reading list here, I never have any time or energy left for actual posting.

Seriously, I think I have a seriously cool reading list, full of smart, thoughtful, funny and pragmatic women.  All y'all rock so hard, and make it so much easier for me to spend my "productive" hours among men.

Thank you!

First DW Post!

Friday, May 1st, 2009 08:30 am
fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Default)
Hi! I'm here! I got up this morning and found an invite code in my mailbox :) And I immediately upgraded!

I'm in the process of importing my LJ over here, which will be for back up, but I see using DW for all my fannish activities and keeping LJ for my mundane musings. I'm not really worried about keeping my identities separate, thus the use of my usual name, but if I have a fannish journal, I won't have to lock posts, which means I can hopefully connect up with more fans. It makes sense in my mind at least.

A couple of questions though - which I'll probably take over to  the help folks anyway:

1) some of my screens look weird - the text is not lining up right. I assume this is a code issue that DW will work on.

2) how do I get my open ID reading list and comments connected up to my shiny new journal?  I understood this would work itself out - is it a matter of timing? My DW account is only an hour old.  Or must I "take steps?"

3) 200 Icons! W00t! I now must find 101 more to upload!  Also - where do I get DW icons?

4) I'm going to lunch today with my BF :)  It's only been about a month since the last time.

Seriously, Anu!

Wednesday, March 11th, 2009 06:46 am
fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Default)
I swear Anu Garg is secretly commenting on Racefail09 this week.  A.Word.A.Day has this thought to offer today:

"Men have slow reflexes. In general it takes several generations later for them to understand."
-Stanislaw J. Lec, poet and aphorist (1909-1966)

Okay, I'm off to my all-day kick-off of the Beloit project.  Wish me luck!  It's me, 6 subcontractors, 2 other branches of my Co and 13 school buildings for the next 6 months.  $1.7 million later - shiny new energy saving stuff in action! \o/
fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Default)
Lifted (with slight edits) from [livejournal.com profile] sasha_feather ):

The first seven people to respond to this post will get something made by me.

This offer does have some restrictions and limitations:

- What I create will be personalized and intended for you.

- It'll be done this year (2009).

- You will have no idea what it's going to be. It may be a series of photographs, something written or sewn, a bookmark, a mix CD, or some new craft that I haven't thought of yet. I might even bake you something and mail it to you, although baking isn't my normal thing, but kitchen products are a good bet. Who knows? Not you, that's for sure!

The catch? You have to put this offer in your journal as well, and make seven things for your friends!


fullygoldy: Ronon Testifying-Yes (Ronon Yes)

See's Candies (specifically Nuts & Chews) 


Yo-Yo Ma's New CD - Songs of Joy & Peace 

Alison Krauss singing on the above CD


January's Wiscon Book Club Selection 


Hogue Late Harvest Riesling      


And realizing there's only 1 more day to go until another 4-day weekend
(also, "new guy" is now "ex-guy," so say, bye-bye).

fullygoldy: My Rainbow Infinity Symbol Tatt (Tattoo)
* That 1.5" strip of Sting's midriff on Friday night in the middle of the concert.

[profile] busman1994's son being a bone marrow donor at the end of August.  He got tested/entered in the donor bank back when DH was diagnosed with MDS.  He was probably only 16 at the time.  Now he's engaged.

* My tattoo (with the soy-based ink even).

* Bumping into people I like on Yahoo Messenger even though I almost never remember to sign on.

* The smell of brewing beer (more precisely, the smell of wort boiling).

* And just because it's on right now - that commercial where Justin Timberlake gets dragged through hell & half of GA before being repeatedly yanked against a mailbox post between his legs.

Book Club!

Monday, July 21st, 2008 09:23 pm
fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Make Books)
I've been remiss in reviewing books, DVDs and flicks around here, but I am so thrilled to have joined the WisCon/Tiptree flavored book club.

Yes, the books are interesting, thought provoking, irritating, fun, satisfying, disappointing - everything you want in a book club, really.  But the true value is in the people.  I am just delighted to have met, and keep meeting these intelligent, fascinating, funny, warm people, who don't limit their experience of each other to this one venue.  I don't feel like an outsider, though I was definitely a newcomer.  But I'm not the newest, nor the oldest (chronologically).  I'm not the straightest nor the most alternative, and definitely not the smartest or most "liberated" in the group, and it's completely satisfying and refreshing to find myself in the middle of the pack.

And now, they're planning to broaden my horizons even more, because the next reading assignment includes a short story and the first volume of a graphic novel.  Heh, the last thing I read that even came close was my older cousins' Archie comics (and Casper and Richie Rich) lo, these many years ago.  I've watched a couple of episodes of Avatar too.  Does that count? LOL

Also, we meet in cool places - The Argus (out on the sidewalk tonight), Brocach, and next month, the Union Terrace.

Sekrit message to [personal profile] jesse_the_k:  yet another reason to care about Miles?  He's got these "old-fashioned" notions about his role in a relationship, but then he keeps creating environments in where it is possible for his love interests to grow into their full potential.  Unfortunately for him, this also usually results in the love interests out-growing him.  And he lets them go.  It's really pretty awesome.

More Joy Day!

Saturday, January 12th, 2008 12:58 pm
fullygoldy: Peanuts Gang Dancing (Dance Fever)

Okay, I totally missed this, because I was away from the computer all week, but I would love to participate in More Joy Day as invented/envisioned by 

[personal profile] sdwolfpup every time it comes around.  January 10, 2008 was the first ever More Joy Day, and I think it is totally reasonable to make the 10th of every month More Joy Day.  At least I'm going to start posting More Joy related items on each 10th.  I hope you'll all join me in attempting to add more joy to the world on a monthly basis.  I think we all need it.

I realize More Joy Day was initially thought of from a fandom perspective, but it will work for real life too.  So go be joyful people! and remember to report about it.

 

Acquisitions

Thursday, November 1st, 2007 10:18 am
fullygoldy: globe wrapped in a rainbow (Rainbow Earth)
In the past week, we've picked up a few things that are probably minor, but fill me with glee:

Last Saturday, DH and I were introduced to a variety of dominoes called "chicken tracks" and had so much fun playing it that on Sunday when we encountered double-12 dominoes in Farm & Fleet, we had to get them. We've since played twice, with Rupert joining us late in the evening last night. The game is good clean fun and time together just laughing and joking and it totally blocks out all the day-to-day drama we have to deal with. So yay for new games.

Last week, I also purchased high-tech wipers for both vehicles as part of the winterizing process. I've never spent $15/wiper before, so I'm hoping these things live up to their press (and last a whole year).

Yesterday, I was on my way back from the Waukesha office when I decided to pull into the outlet mall in Johnson Creek. We've recently decided on a plan for updating our dishes, since we are currently using two partial sets for dining. That's okay when just the 4 of us are present, but when we have 8-10 at the table, as we so frequently do, I can't get a matched set going.
backstory )


So what did I buy? I got 12 fruit bowls. I know it sounds dumb, but they're a really useful size - great for ice cream or pudding or a small, drippy serving of something at dinner. They're white 'fine china' and have a cool octagonal shape on the bottom that transitions to a circle at the lip. They have 2 levels, with the lower half tapering, making them really easy to stack. And, they were $2.79 ea before the extra discount.

In addition, I picked up the teapot from the same pattern for $10.50! I love teapots, but I haven't collected very many. Last winter, the whole family got into drinking tea in the afternoon or evening, so it seemed like a good way to encourage the return of that trend. Also, it puts to good use the new tea kettle we picked up from Sam's on Saturday :) It turns out that the new kettle and the new pot are extremely well-matched in size. 

So last night, while passing out halloween candy to the very few visitors, we drank a pot of licorice spice tea and played dominoes. It was a lovely evening.  And it turns out that DH and I are extremely well-matched in chicken tracks too - we're only 2 points apart!
fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Hot Air)
Last week I came home to find not one, but two cards addressed to me in the mail. :)  It's not my birthday or any other holiday, but there they were!  Who doesn't love getting an honest-to-god physical card in the hand?

One was from my Aunt in CA, just a quick "thinking of you" note which was for DH too.  The other was a beautiful card containing a thank you note for an email I wrote awhile ago.  Heh, that seems kind of strange in this day and age, but I appreciated it because I know what an effort it is for me to do the same.

The funny thing is, I've got a whole drawer of stationary and cards for all occasions that I've collected over the years.  I tend to by a handful of cards at once, whenever I'm in a cool store, and I might manage to send one of them right away, but the rest tend to languish.  I take them out and look at them from time to time, and there are still a couple in there that I had before I even met DH.  I'm constantly promising myself that I will start writing more.  I've tried carrying blank cards around with me, so that I can jot quick notes while waiting places, but somehow that doesn't happen.  I've tried carrying specific cards for specific people to make sure I get their birthday greetings sent off on time, but most of the time I end up crumpling them up in my bag and then discarding them.  I quit doing the holiday card thing at the end of the year, because it was too stressful to try to get them out on time.  For a few years, I switched to a "New Year's greeting." On New Year's Day, I'd sit down with my cards and write them out while watching the parades and games.  Then I'd continue on through the month until I'd made it through the whole list.  But that went by the wayside too.  This weekend, I managed to send two cards out, but  the birthday one went out on the birthday (which is actually closer to on time than since this nephew was born 5 yrs ago!)  The other had been planned for at least 6 weeks.

I do stay in touch with people by phone and email and LJ, and I love the immediacy of these tools, but I also love opening an envelope addressed to me, by someone I know.  It gives me such a lift.  The cards always spend some time on display on the mantel or my nightstand too.  I've got another drawer that contains many (not all) of the cards and notes I've received over the years.  There are really pretty ones that I can recycle in some way, and really special ones either for the sentiment or because they were handmade.  I love going through them too.  They're physical reminders of past smiles (or tears) with the added bonus of producing more smiles.  Cards really are the "gift that keeps on giving."

Just so you all know - I think about you all the time.  I buy cards with you in mind, imagining the smile you'll get when you see this one.  I'm constantly composing little notes in my mind to put inside.  I'm sorry they rarely make it out of my mind onto paper.  I'm really sorry about the ones that do go on paper but never get mailed.  But I carry you all with me every day.
fullygoldy: text = She Could See No Good Reason to Act Her Age (Natalie Age)
Wow, what an amazing Friday!

It all started with lunch.  I went for a late lunch with a friend, and we sat on a patio overlooking the Yahara for two hours, chatting happily about work, food, kids, books, flying dreams, power tools, etc.  The Bourbon Street Grille is a funny little place in Monona, that usually has terrible service and merely edible food, this time being no exception.  It's major draw is that patio.  The sun was high in the sky and the temp was pretty warm, but we were comfortable under our umbrella and loath to leave.   Alas, RL beckoned and we headed our separate ways, which fortunately for both of us did not involve returning to work.

I got home to find that DH and Rupert had already returned from their matinee of the Simpsons Movie.  They enjoyed it at least as much as Mavis did last week.  DH looked ready for a nap, and since I woke up a full hour earlier than I had wanted to, I suggest we nap together.  The AC was running and made lying on the bed with bare skin a lovely treat.  After awhile, we got dressed and headed out for the first Dane Dance of the season at Monona Terrace.



Next week's Dane Dance features Mama Digdowns (N'Awlins brass) and BBI (danceable motown).  Maybe we'll see you there, but we won't be out afterward because next Saturday is the annual Day of Public Drunkenness.  I can't wait!

fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Better than sex)
It all started last November or so, when [profile] bzdchrisand [profile] busman1994decided to purchase 4(!) pounds of frozen foie gras from D'Artangan because it was on sale.  Once faced with the 4 lbs of excess in hand, it became clear that a steady diet of seared foie gras atop everything would soon lose its lustre, so bzdchris decided the best way to handle the "problem" would be to plan a dinner party that featured the beloved foie in every course.  Several months of planning and recipe gathering later, we finally celebrated Foie Fest last night in our lovely backyard dining room.

[profile] bzdchris and [profile] busman1994arrived around noon to finish their prep, and I was in the middle of prep for my course, which was planned to be 4th.  I still have trouble with the digital oven timer though, and somehow didn't get it set.  When I realized this, I panicked and started looking in the oven every 5 minutes.  Finally, after all 4 of us conferred, we decided the flans were finished, and removed them to cool until the appointed time.  They were nicely set and a beautiful golden color.

Around 4, our sommelier arrived, bearing gallons of water, ice and the ingredients for a campari fruit punch, which was tart like a pink grapefruit - yum.  We all started in with our first drinks of the day (not counting the half of an organic beer I'd had with lunch).  One of our party of eight had to drop out, but when all 7 of us were finally gathered, we were delighted to find the outdoor temp had suddenly dropped perfectly into the realm of comfortable.

Under a canvas gazebo and against a backdrop of white lace, green linen, crystal glasses and pink roses, we began.  First, we toasted the ducks who gave their lives for our decadent repast, then we toasted all fowl, everywhere.

Hors d'oevres were an artichoke-caper spread and roasted heads of garlic to spread on fire-toasted french bread rounds.  The sparkly Cristalino Brut put us all in a festive mood.
 
Next up was a miniaturized version of nicoise salad with fois gras "cracklins."  The red potatoes were the tiniest I've seen, there were fresh green beans and baby beets cooked and sliced.  Instead of croutons, we had tiny cubes of pan seared foie gras scattered amongst the greens.  The whole dish was lightly dressed with a dijon-champagne vinaigrette flavored with tarragon.  Delicious!  More sparkly Cristalino was poured.
 
The pasta course cosisted of foie gras and white bean ravioli, presented with pesto and cherry tomatoes.  Two large, hand-made ravioli were filled with a puddle of white bean puree and slivers of foie gras and a flat parsley leaf.  The pesto drizzle was nearly chunky and the tomatoes were obviously vine-ripened.  We finished the open bottle of Cristalino.

Finally, it was my turn to serve.  The truffle flavored foie gras flan on a bed of wild mushroom fricassee looked and sounded wonderful in the Foie Gras: A Passion cookbook, but the recipe wasn't written for people who don't cook with amazing ingredients every day.  My earlier confusion with the oven timer resulted in only half-cooked flans.  Thank goddess there was an extra, so that when I turned it out onto the plate and saw half the custard slosh over the sides, I still had enough servings to rescue.  Back in the oven they went.  [profile] bzdchriswas gracious enough to move the next course up so our guests wouldn't be twiddling their thumbs waiting for the flan.  The mushroom fricassee went back in a bowl to stay warm, we rinsed the plates and turned our attention to the Tournedos Rossini.

Tournedos Rossini is ta traditional presentation of tenderloin served with seared foie gras and port wine sauce.  [profile] bzdchristoasted slices of semolina bread as the base, layered them with rare tenderloin slices and the seared foie.  The port wine sauce was painted artfully over the plate by [profile] busman1994.  They served a 2005 beaujolais that paired nicely.  We all took great delight in making sure we tried every combination of foie, tenderloin and bread available during this course.

Back to the flan!  I pulled them out of the oven after determining that a knife stuck between the side of the ramekin and the edge of the flan no longer resulted in pure cream welling up.  They were also puffed up, pulled away from the sides and quite dark brown on top.  I started plating the mushroom fricasse again, when [profile] bzdchrislooked at me and said "oh no! I forgot the palate cleanser!"  Okay, my flans were supposed to sit for 15 minutes anyway, after they came out, so I dumped the mushrooms back in the bowl, laughing hysterically by this point, since I now had to wash my plates again, and we still hadn't eaten any flan.

The palate cleanser of Ambrosius blood orange sorbet was so intense!  YU-UM.  Seriously.

Back to the kitchen with me and the flans.  With [profile] barley52and the sommelier's help, I managed to unmold them finally.  They were still slightly runny, so that a puddle of custard developed on the plates, and we had to scrape the bottoms of the ramekins out onto the tops because that was where all the minced truffle and cracked black pepper had settled.  Once the ramekins were empty, [profile] barley52created a ring of mushrooms around each flan and garnished each with a sprig of fresh sage.  The sommelier poured our Luzon Jumilla and we finally, finally got to business.  Oh. My. God.  The flan was some kind of silken foie and truffled heaven! Seriously - I was so full already, but this was fantastic.  I felt it was at this point in the evening, maybe a little too large of a serving (even though I'd used only 3/4 cup ramekins), but no plate went unlicked.  If someone was incapable of finishing theirs, another was there to volunteer.  "I now know that clouds are not made of ice water, they are made of truffled foie gras flan" was the best quote of the course.

Time for another palate cleanser:  peach sorbet served with fresh peach slices.  So light and lovely.  So refreshing.  So thankfully tiny. LOL

The final frontier, the savory dessert was served.  Foie gras-onion-leek-apple streudel with toasted almonds and caramel-madeira sauce.  The phylo sheets had been brushed with rendered duck fat during the layering, and then sauteed onions, leeks and apples were the stuffing with small cubes of foie gras sprinkled along the length before rolling up and baking.  The streudel was crispy and warm, and so so so fantastic!  The caramel was just enough sweet counterpoint to the savory.  Even better, the wine was a Viu Manent Late Harvest Semillon.  It was deeply sweet and perfect for dessert.
 
Finally, amongst groans and mmmmgasms, home  made chocolate truffles flavored with cointreau, amaretto or chili and marzipan fruit were savored with a final bottle of Cristalino. ::sigh::

When it was all said and done, we'd run the dishwasher 4 times in the course of 11 hours!  A personal best, I think.  Also, we used the crystal glasses, the old-fashioneds, the water glasses, the red wine goblets and the white wine glasses.  The table was a riot of glass sparkling in the candlelight by the end of the night.  Hopefully soon, I'll be able to link to the pics taken by [profile] drstarbuckand [profile] mc_beth

Can you believe we were all in bed by 11:30 pm?!  I am so glad we started early.

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Monday, July 23rd, 2007 08:21 pm
fullygoldy: Ben & Ray in Canada (Someday)

Geez, I’m falling behind with the Netflix.  I’m pretty sure we haven’t got our money’s worth the past couple of months.  Hopefully we’ll start making up for that soon.  At least we got a reduced monthly fee recently.  When does that ever happen?

 

 

 

Just recently, busman1994 let me borrow his Big Chill videotape.  This movie has been one of my favorites since it debuted.  I love the group dynamic in this.  I love the love they have for each other.  This feeling is something I’ve been trying to achieve my entire adult life.  Unfortunately, a steady diet of DVDs has spoiled me for videotape.  Gah!  The quality of this was terrible!  It wasn’t even homemade and it was terrible!  But the movie and the message still play well.  I snuggled into DH’s lap on a lazy Sunday afternoon to watch, and was just as amused and touched as ever.  The funny thing is, earlier that day, bzdchris and busman1994 quoted this at me: “We’ve taken a vote.  We’re never leaving here.” (Jeff Goldblum says it)  That’s it – that’s the feeling I’m looking for.  Where the people who’ve become my family want to be with me, in our home, feeling the love, forever.  I think we’ve gotten really close to achieving that on an ongoing basis.  It’s a great feeling.  So that’s the secret to Goldy’s happiness.  If you want me to have that happy rush, just tell me you wish you could stay when you’re leaving.  Or stay a little longer.  That works too.

fullygoldy: Goldy's Sparkles N Porn Nametag (Hello)

Following the example of my good friends, A.A., and [personal profile] texasbek, I decided to donate my hair to Locks of Love. It turns out I had about 15" to give! Yay!

fullygoldy: Yellow Roses (Smoke dreams)
We get a lot of compliments about our kids.  I really love getting them too.  Sometimes total strangers will say things to us or to them that just make my day.  Sometimes friends or acquaintances who describe themselves as anti-kid or kid-neutral will decide our kids don't fit into the normal kid category.  I know this sounds braggadocious, but I don't really care.  I love my kids.  They are smart and beautiful and they don't take much crap from anyone.  They are funny and talented.  They love the things we love - music, food, logic, art, friends, and home.  What's not to like there?

Yeah, yeah, there's all the teenaged crap too.  Bad study habits and abyssmal grades.  Mouthiness (where do you think they got that from?) and the apparent inability to complete a chore correctly without complaining or being yelled at during the process.  Hormonal rages.  You know.  The normal stuff.

When I was about to be a new mother, I was paranoid that I couldn't do it, or do it well enough to have successful children.  When it all began, I received some very important  child-rearing advice that I believe are the secrets of our success:

From Mom:  You don't have to be a perfect mother.  You just have to be a Goldy kind of mom.

From Mother in Law:  Everyone always told me not to hold the babies too much or they'd get spoiled.  Well I say, hold them all you want.  They're not going to let you hold them forever, and in fact, they'll quit wanting you to much too soon.

From Carol: (in reply to our compliment "We think you are amazing parents.  Your children are wonderful.")  It's nothing special.  We just love them and guard them.

From Amy:  You can't just decide you're never going to spank a kid.  Don't tell me you're not spanking them unless you can also say what you are doing instead.

In summary, I learned:  Be yourself, don't skimp on the love, guard them fiercely, and make sure you're teaching personal responsibility.

The funny thing is, I think I already knew all that on some level.  But affirmation and validation are really valuable for a new mom.  Or any mom :)

Anyway, the "love them and guard them" theme has showed up a lot recently.  And I'm pleased to learn that in addition to guarding our kids, we've also taught them to guard themselves.  Our kids are warm and loving and open, but they don't let anyone (not even us) trample on their hearts or self-esteem.  I think they deserve all those random compliments.

Go Forth, and Click!

Thursday, March 1st, 2007 06:19 pm
fullygoldy: Sam Carter glaring (Fierce Sam)
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